I am planning a baby shower for the end of March. The mother to be appears hesitant. I cant tell if this is because I am overdoing the shower or if it is because she is dealing with a lot in terms of pregnancy. There is a largish guest list of thirty six (though this wasnt my decision). I have put a lot of time into games and catering, but out of the joy of doing it.
Also, do any moms here have any tips on what they would have enjoyed?
Since she knows that you are throwing her the shower, why not ask her what her preferences are? If the guest list is too large for her, ask her to trim it down. Often times we give control over guest lists to people who want people there "just because" they were invited to something this person had a long time ago.
Maybe she’s hesitant because of the timing, there are tons of reasons. The best way to find out what they are, go ahead and ask her :o)
I’m having my first but I never got a shower. We’re a military family who lives 2500 miles from anyone even remotely related to us. If I were to have had one, I would have loved having some input unless it was a complete secret.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:20 am
My shower was very laid back. We had a light lunch, played one game and did gifts. It was nice to just be able to sit and chat with everyone and not have too much going on.
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February 16th, 2010 at 10:01 am
Since she knows that you are throwing her the shower, why not ask her what her preferences are? If the guest list is too large for her, ask her to trim it down. Often times we give control over guest lists to people who want people there "just because" they were invited to something this person had a long time ago.
Maybe she’s hesitant because of the timing, there are tons of reasons. The best way to find out what they are, go ahead and ask her :o)
I’m having my first but I never got a shower. We’re a military family who lives 2500 miles from anyone even remotely related to us. If I were to have had one, I would have loved having some input unless it was a complete secret.
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February 16th, 2010 at 10:27 am
I loved my baby shower. My mom and MIL planned it. I have a BIG extended family so It was about 50 guests, women only! The only thing I wished would have been done differently would have been less games we played like 7. Overload and by the time opening gifts came, being pregnant and all I was so over it and tired. But it was fun and exciting celebrating the life of my little girl to come. BTW i suggest if you haven’t sent out the invites, do a diaper raffle include a slip of paper and have people bring packages of diapers to enter in a raffle to win, a gift card to either a restaurant or for a facial. It was a life saver i didn’t buy diapers until my daughter was 3.5 months old!
Good luck. Im sure she will have fun and appreciates it, she might just be dealing with a lot right now.
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February 16th, 2010 at 11:07 am
I think it’s great that you are planning a shower for your friend, how special! My friend threw a small baby shower for me and I really loved it. It was very laid back-she did brunch and had really good food and champagne (sparkling cider for me!) served on beautiful dishes and it felt very posh, but we really just sat around and ate all the good food and chit-chatted and laughed all afternoon - there was no special agenda or games.
The mom-to-be might be nervous that no one will come. I know that I was! Maybe you can talk to her and see what her hesitation is? I think that as long as you have great food and an even better guest list, you can’t go wrong. You will have a great time.
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