i would really like for my fiance to be at my baby shower, along with the other men in my family. but most of the women in my family are fussing saying that it’s a "women only" event. i know that used to be how it was, but times have changed so much, is it really that big of a deal? what do you think?
I had the same issue, when I had my baby shower. I guess mostly only women want to go to baby showers, but I see nothing wrong with men going if they want to. My bf and brother were at mine. I say do what you want it’s YOUR baby shower.
what is your opinion on men being at baby showers?
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October 31st, 2009 at 8:43 pm
i agree, it really is a "women only zone", i suggest maybe having a cook out one night seperate from the baby shower that men and women can come to, and it can be a celebration of the new baby!
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October 31st, 2009 at 9:33 pm
my husband was at my baby shower because he wasnt going to be able to be at the birth due to deploying to iraq. if he wants to be there then let him.
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October 31st, 2009 at 10:02 pm
There are such things as co-ed baby showers but they’re totally different then the normal women only showers. The one that I have been to turned into a huge drinking party because of the guys. In all honesty it takes away from the mom-to-be to have men there. Men dont want to play games & giggle over all the gifts. Boys get bored & end up doing their own thing instead of giving the mother the attention she deserves at her shower.
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October 31st, 2009 at 10:42 pm
I had the same issue, when I had my baby shower. I guess mostly only women want to go to baby showers, but I see nothing wrong with men going if they want to. My bf and brother were at mine. I say do what you want it’s YOUR baby shower.
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Mommy to a 5 1/2 month old.
Had the same experience.
October 31st, 2009 at 11:11 pm
I can have it go both ways, but if you want it to be a coed shower, just do it. Why not? I dont think its a big deal. I would just make sure to have some stuff for the men to do as well. We made ours a huge BBQ. I think the father deserves a celebration too. Its not like its a bachelorette party.
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November 1st, 2009 at 12:01 am
It’s your baby shower, it should go the way you want it to.
If you want to invite men, and have them there, then you should!!!
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November 1st, 2009 at 12:46 am
I say have who you want!!! I had everyone at my shower! My father, brother, brother in laws, father in law… if I were inviting friends I didn’t include their "others" on it but they could come if they wanted, they didn’t want! :o) But I know my family wanted to be there! They don’t want to play the games, so they all talked in the back, buy some beer and they will all be fine! Mostly the ones I have been to lately have all at least the daddy’s to be and lots of grandpas to be too!!! It is your day, do what makes YOU feel happy! :o)
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November 1st, 2009 at 1:06 am
I think it’s way more fun to have women only baby showers. It’s a girl thing and that’s the traditional way to do it.
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November 1st, 2009 at 1:25 am
I had a coed baby shower. My husband will play a big role in our baby’s life so it was nice that he was a part of the baby shower. It was actually fun having my husband and I open our baby’s gifts together. Definitely a memory I will never forget
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37 weeks and 3 days pregnant
November 1st, 2009 at 1:59 am
Well, I’m hispanic and at baby showers men tend to attend. I don’t consider it a women only event. I guess because I’m use to seeing men at baby showers.
Is your party and you and only you decide who you want there and how you want it. You make your own rules. If you want your fiance’s friends there then let it be.
Remember the baby is his too.
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November 1st, 2009 at 2:12 am
most of my friends are male, and i want my husband to be there, but HIS mom is throwing the shower and says that i shouldn’t invite men to be there.
i don’t know if i want to have one if the people i want to be there aren’t allowed to.
I don’t see what the problem with men being there is.
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November 1st, 2009 at 2:28 am
It’s not a big deal at all. I had guys at both of my baby showers and my friend had her hubby and other guys at her shower too. Women only is an old tradition… either way is totally fine. We are having my shower at a steakhouse so everyone can drink if they want, play pool, they have sports on, but also a nice setting for a shower. Good for everyone.
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30 weeks 4 days prego with baby #2
November 1st, 2009 at 2:39 am
We just had our baby shower a few weeks ago…and It was Couples. It was my idea, I wanted it to be more a big family/close friend get together. My boyfriend came..but let me tell you he was very nervous about being the only guy there…however, when we got to the party, there was an equal mix of guys and girls. I’m not really into to whole goofy game thing. So before we got there they had a meet and greet game so the different sides of the family could meet and intermingle. Thankfully there was no drinking but I know some of the guests would of preferred it. We actually had the party at the YMCA….We included the kids of the couples as well, the YMCA people allowed the kids at the party to swim. All in all it was a nice event with good food and friendly conversations.
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November 1st, 2009 at 3:06 am
We had a co-ed shower. There was some fussing from other ladies in the family, saying that it should be a ladies only event. But, they also understood the shower was for our baby, not theirs.
We frequently reminded them that (my husband’s name) will be helping out just as much with the baby, so the gifts would be fun for him too.
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November 1st, 2009 at 3:42 am
It’s not really a big deal, do what you want, i don’t think it’s a problem having guys in a baby shower, if you prefer it that way, then be it, nice to have some changes at times…
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