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02 3rd, 2012| 
I was outraged when someone suggested this chick have yet a 3rd baby shower just because shes having twins…whoop de doo!! Im all baby showered out with this chick…. Let me tell….she has a 4 yr old girl and 2 yr old boy and now she is pregnant with twins….. Hell no friend or not…. I think a meet and greet would be more appropriate at least…. Why do people get knocked up every damn year and expect baby showers ??? If u cannot afford the necessities for a baby on your own or with family support than go on birth control plain and simple …married or not… This woman just so happen to be married . Her and her husband dont make much money…but im suposed to throw another shower after I did her first two… hell no way and not to mention I have my own wedding to pay for this year… Dont they understand…..WEDDING!!!!! . And they are so caught up in having their 3rd and fourth babies they dont even seem all that excited for the fact im getting married…. Everytime I talk a little about wedding stuff they arent interested…and I dont go bridezilla mode trust me… Im very humble person…… the nerve of people
I am totally for having as many kids as u please but just dont expect people to throw big baby showers for you every time. Besides if people love you they will give gifts whether you have a shower or not…am I wrong about this?? I dont mean to offend anyone I just think after 2 baby showers with your kids being so close in age, u should have the basic necessities and not expect much.
I tend to agree. . . however, the purpose of a baby shower is *supposed* to be twofold: as you stated, to provide gifts that will help ease the purse strings of the expectant mother, but also to celebrate the impending birth, the joy of adding another little person to the fold.
So I, like you, think that the only appropriate way to do this would be to have a party, a get-together - something informal, something which is meant *solely* to celebrate, not to outfit or bestow gifts.
I think your feelings are hurt that your friend is seemingly disinterested in your upcoming wedding. While I can’t blame you, I guess I’d try to keep it in perspective - if this friend had no children, you know perfectly well she would be excited, and able to talk about it with you. I doubt it’s so much a lack on interest as a lack of time and energy. Shrug. I could be wrong, people are self-absorbed, but again - this is a pregnant lady with two kids under the age of 5. She really *is* busy. I would try not to let that bother me so much.
Has she actually *asked* you to set up a shower for her? Or have other people mentioned it to you, assuming you would once again be hosting and planning? If she hasn’t asked you, I see no problem. You just don’t bring it up and don’t do it. If she *has* asked you and you said yes, or if others have asked and you went ahead and said "yes I intend to do this", you’re stuck.
I am a mother of twins (and an older son). . . I was asked by my Mother-in-Law if I wanted a shower, and I said absolutely not. Mainly from a manners standpoint, but also because I just didn’t *need* that much - and I would have felt uncomfortable placing people in that position, of having to buy yet another gift. Shrug. Different strokes.
Bottom line - if you think it’s inappropriate, just don’t do it. If your friend requires an explanation, she’s an idiot or intentionally obtuse.
I hope your wedding goes well, good luck and take care.
I’m sure whatever you get them, they will love!
Toys aren’t really too useful, because they’ve learned to really interact with people and their surroundings. They’re amused by playing with just about anything, so I’d prefer not to get them toys. Same goes with books, I’ll leave his til they’re a bit older… Any other ideas?