Sweet Baby Gifts

Im 24 yrs old…and married for the last 4yrs…we have a3yr old daughter,and well settled in Dubai.I have many issues in my marriage life,especially with my in laws..they are very much snubbing me treating me like nobody in their family and well shouting to me about my parents and telling rubbish to me so i just can’t stand them anymore..
Now i will tell everything in detail….from the third day after our wedding …My MIL told me that ur parents should bring some gifts(home Appliances) to their home as a tradition.but they didn’t do that,coz my parents thought that it is not fair for them to ask like that..and instead of home Appliances they gave me 10 sovereigns of gold ornaments.
Then after an year in got pregnant and their is some tradition in our family on the seventh month of pregnancy(the women’s family have to come to the Menes family then gve the preggey lady a gift(gold) and sweets which should be 7 items in number as concerned to the month of pregnancy)and u know what she demanded that the gold should be not less than 10 Sovereign.And i told my parents about this and they agreed,and before tow or three days of the function she (MIL) was talking to me in her bedroom in between the talks she told me that "YOUR PARENTS HAVE NOT DONE THE VERY FIRST TRADITION OF GIVING GIFTS AS HOME APPLIANCES SO THIS IS A CHANCE TO GIVE,SO TELL YOUR PARENTS TO BUY A CUPBOARD AND A INVERTER TOO WITH THE GOLD ORNAMENTS"i was really depressed of hearing this she only have to talk about money and gold,i felt sad about this and i told my mother about the talk and she told me tell her (MIL)to call her(my mother)to tell the items she want for her home.and without any shame she called my parents and told my mother that there is a pending tradition so u have to do that,then my mother lose the grip of her tongue and had a big argument with my(MIL)she was so ashamed of that incident and told me that tell you parents that don’t bring that home Appliances…i told my hus about this and he told that my mother would not have talk like that,yes i agree with him but she(MIL) is beyond my control..I CAN’T STAND HER ANYMORE..and the day of function came all the demands of my IN LAWS WERE SATISFIED TOO(11 AND HALF SOVEREIGN OF GOLD,SEVEN ITEMS OF SWEETS(SERVES 40),CUPBOARD,INVERTER)and the function went all fine and that eve in went to my parents place..(my home)
After two months…9 months they(my in laws)wants to come to see me according to their tradition they have to bring sweets and all when they visit me and it should be in 9 items too they bought only 5 or 4 which is not enough to share within the family…(its a custom)as of the seventh month.My parents kept quiet on this matter after they have left we went to a bakery and bought items 9 in number and share it to all family members…as if they(in laws)bought for me….
After 2 weeks i got deliverd with a beautiful baby girl(MASHA ALLAH).things went all fine.My hus came to see we both..he was happy and he went back to Dubai after a week.Then came the next issue is forming (I TOLD MY HUSBAND THT YOUR PARENTS SHOULD DO WELL ON THE DAY OF FUNTION AS IF THEY SHOULD GIFT THE BABY WELL WITH GOLD,DRESS DRESS FOR ME AND MY FAMILY) we have a costom(40th day bath)in that day everybody will be invited and they will give gift for the baby GOLD WHICH THEY GIFTED WERE FROM MY HUSBAND later i came to know about that..(like dress,gold,toys,dress for me)on that day she came so late and gift the baby gold,and dress(which were of poor quality)and dress for me and my mother only nobody else.i losse my temper and shouted to my hus that they haven’t done anythng for me as a costom but your parents want everything to be in the same coustom, and we all had a big argument for that matter
And now also my in laws are talking rubbish on my parents..saying that they havent gave me anythng more etc..they even don’t attened any function invited by my relatives but my parents should attened all the funtion of theirs.I JUST HATE THEM(in laws)
Last time when we were on vacction at our home town…i visited my in laws too and wished to stay with them for a month but after a week she started snubbing me..and after a while of peacefull talks she strted GETTING INTO MY NERVES and i too stared shouthing at her face,She was telling about my dowary,money mis behaviour and i too talked to her in the same tone.I CANT STAND HER ANYMORE…she was telling me tht u just get out from my home.
NOW I WANT TO KNOW FROM YOU ALL ……ONLY ONE THING……..she is comng to spend her vaccation with us here in Dubai..SHE WILL REPEAT THE SAME AS SHE DID BEFORE….SO WHAT ALL BOUNDARIES SHOULD I KEEP IN FRONT IN ORDER TO MOVE AWAY FROM HER…I UNDERSTOOD THT I CAN’T BE CLOSE TO HER ANYMORE I HATE HER A LOT…..PLZ HELP
PREM@i think u r mistaken…excuse me….ok i meant tht i parents too did gve gift for my daughter and well with their own earning and they have more than enough money and my hus to buy gold for 3 soveregin out of 5 to gift to their granddaughter…what the hell was that….
prem@i repeat my parents hve done everythng for me..and still my in laws just dont care for me they do care for MONEY……STUPID creeeps…now i have started doing like tht i too care for money in front of them,

talk to your husband and tell him to stop this. besides it none of her business, plain and simple, if she feels you need electronics hell why doesn’t she give them to you. next time she brings this up you tell her that, in front of your husband. I also hate my IL, but sadly they are not going any where, but neither am I.