From the time I was a baby my parents have used a nickname for me. Some of my friends didn’t learn my real name right away because my nickname isn’t the typical diminutive like Beth for Bethany.
obviously for the ceremony my legal name has to be used. But I’m wondering what to do for monograms? ( My real name and nickname start with different letters)
And what about invitations? All of his family know me as my nickname, and none of our friends use my real name. It’s not going to turn into a case of guests not knowing who’s inviting them to a wedding, but I’m wondering if I should use the nickname anywhere?
Any brides or those with similar situation please help me out.
If you go by a nickname over your given name, and if everybody is familiar with that name, then use that on the invitations. You could also say ‘Elizabeth (Bunny) Masterson invites you to blah blah blah’ and put your nickname in brackets so people know who they’re being invited by.
If you’re one of those people with an unfortunately unattractive first name and you prefer to use a middle name or nickname, then by all means do so. Nobody is forcing you to put Zonzabelle on invitations if everybody knows you as Elli. You’ll only need such things on the legal documentation.
As for monograms, you can elect to just use one letter (your last name), or you can decide what you like best and use more frequently. My nickname and given name don’t start with the first letter, either, and I typically only use my full given name on documents. When I do monogrammed things like stationery or towels I generally use the first letter of my given name simply because it’s more attractive in cursive.
Pick the letter that you think is prettier when written out. An R could be made a lot fancier than an O, for example.
That said, by the time all is said and done, most people will have heard your full name at one point or another.
In short, use whatever you feel most comfortable with. You won’t be judged one way or another. If I put my full name on invitations I don’t think anybody would know who they were coming from! As for the monograms, I DO use the first letter of my given name.
April 27th, 2010 at 2:52 pm
Generally you would use your full name on the monogram, even if your nickname is not with the same first letter, ex. Beth for Elizabeth. Since most people will have heard your full name at the ceremony, there shouldn’t be too much confusion.
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April 27th, 2010 at 3:01 pm
If you go by a nickname over your given name, and if everybody is familiar with that name, then use that on the invitations. You could also say ‘Elizabeth (Bunny) Masterson invites you to blah blah blah’ and put your nickname in brackets so people know who they’re being invited by.
If you’re one of those people with an unfortunately unattractive first name and you prefer to use a middle name or nickname, then by all means do so. Nobody is forcing you to put Zonzabelle on invitations if everybody knows you as Elli. You’ll only need such things on the legal documentation.
As for monograms, you can elect to just use one letter (your last name), or you can decide what you like best and use more frequently. My nickname and given name don’t start with the first letter, either, and I typically only use my full given name on documents. When I do monogrammed things like stationery or towels I generally use the first letter of my given name simply because it’s more attractive in cursive.
Pick the letter that you think is prettier when written out. An R could be made a lot fancier than an O, for example.
That said, by the time all is said and done, most people will have heard your full name at one point or another.
In short, use whatever you feel most comfortable with. You won’t be judged one way or another. If I put my full name on invitations I don’t think anybody would know who they were coming from! As for the monograms, I DO use the first letter of my given name.
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April 27th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
For the invitations, say your full name was Jane Heather Smith but your nickname was lulu i would put on the invites
Lulu Jane Heather Smith or Jane Heather Lulu Smith.
For the Monagrams I would put your nickname.
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April 27th, 2010 at 4:17 pm
My name is Gillian (don’t ask pronunciation because my mother says it one way and my father says it another, so to keep it simple, I go by a nickname), but most of my family and friends call me Jill. For our monograms, I used the first letter of my real name. Of course now people get a kick out of my new first and last initials being GO, but it’s all good, I think it’s cool. Anyway, use your legal name for monograms.
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April 27th, 2010 at 4:57 pm
I’d say for your monogramming that you should use whichever you prefer, because it’s the monogrammed stuff that’ll be in YOUR house.
For the invitations you cooouuuld do
Elizabeth "Betsy" Marie Jones
I’ve seen that done and it’s fine, but it does look funny to me.
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April 27th, 2010 at 5:20 pm
I would use the nicname. I have a nicname that starts with a different letter to my real name, but my family all know me by real name, just my friends and sisters use my nicname, so I would use my real name. However is your case I would go the nicname. For example a friend of mine’s name is Ezequiel But everyone calls him Zique, so his letter was Z.
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