My friends and family have made it extremely obvious that I am not getting a second baby shower and to be honest it kinda has hurt my feelings. Its not that I care about the gifts because that’s not it at all, I just wanted someone to acknowledge that this baby is just as Special as the first one. Not that they made a big deal out of my first son either. They made it seem like it was a major inconvenience giving me the first shower, and this baby all I have gotten is oh your pregnant again. Its not like I have five kids that have all been born on top of each other. I have my son who will be three years older than this baby. Is it wrong for me to be upset over this? Should I just let it go that no one besides myself and my husband even care? We recently (4 months ago) moved 4 hours away from all of our family and friends and, we haven’t even gotten a call from any of them but our parents, and none of them have even asked how the pregnancy is going. Am I just being hormonal or would you feel jilted too?
I would love to do something like that, (meet the baby) but to be honest with you my messed up and aggrivating family would more than likely not show up. Oh and did I mention others in my family have recieved upwards of 3 baby showers per child. one for each side of the family and one for the people they go to Church with or friends. It like everyone else is more important.
Omg, I’m in the same boat as you. I’m pregnant with my second baby (a girl), and was hoping my family would throw me another shower (for a get together to celebrate a new life coming into the world/family).
Right? I can care less about the gifts!!!! Trust me, I have a 14mth old daughter who left me tons of baby stuff lol…My hubby was trying to get people together, but nobody seems to want to do it?!
I live 25 minutes away from my mother, and she never comes over to our place…She always says that I live too far away! That’s crap…
I’m 30wks along and I’m just gona give up on it as we cannot force people to come or care:) lol. You should just leave it be, and celebrate with your husband! Just have a few friends over if they want, and throw a small celebration party with just your friends!
Good luck with everything!
April 15th, 2010 at 10:37 am
Someone hosting a shower for you is a nice gesture, not an obligation. I would not feel jilted at all. What about having a "meet the baby" party after it arrives?
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April 15th, 2010 at 11:02 am
i would be mad and i most likely wouldn’t speak to them for a while i’d find new friends make them feel bad if they don’t support you i think that’s dumb im sorry this is happening to i would be very upset if it happened to me i wish you and your husband luck don’t let them get you down your going to have another baby just worry about him/her
hope i helped
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April 15th, 2010 at 11:15 am
I think you’re being a immature selfish brat, expecting one! You don’t need a second shower! YOU wanted a baby, not everybody else. Nobody else needs to be excited this is YOUR deal not theirs! You sound like a child who isn’t getting the attention they want! Grow up for God’s sakes!!! A shower for your first isn’t a REQUIREMENT and you’re not even grateful for the one you did get! You sound immature and spoiled, you have children now, it’s past time for you to grow up!
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April 15th, 2010 at 11:52 am
Omg, I’m in the same boat as you. I’m pregnant with my second baby (a girl), and was hoping my family would throw me another shower (for a get together to celebrate a new life coming into the world/family).
Right? I can care less about the gifts!!!! Trust me, I have a 14mth old daughter who left me tons of baby stuff lol…My hubby was trying to get people together, but nobody seems to want to do it?!
I live 25 minutes away from my mother, and she never comes over to our place…She always says that I live too far away! That’s crap…
I’m 30wks along and I’m just gona give up on it as we cannot force people to come or care:) lol. You should just leave it be, and celebrate with your husband! Just have a few friends over if they want, and throw a small celebration party with just your friends!
Good luck with everything!
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30wks no2
April 15th, 2010 at 11:59 am
i dont think you should have a second baby shower but leaving that aside it seems to me that this is more about their reaction to your news and their general attitude towards keeping in touch with you.
i moved just half an hour away from my friends and family, i might as well have moved to the moon! it is difficult to keep in touch as if you dont get in the habit straight away of calling on a certain day or whateva then it actually becomes a bit of an effort
i would just say to them all that you miss them all and express how you would like to keep in contact with them all better, if you are then always contacting your friends but they never contact you then forget it, get new friends!
oh and by the way CONGRATULATIONS! i am ttcing no 2 so wish me luck! hope all is going well with your pregnacy!
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April 15th, 2010 at 12:43 pm
no, you’re not being overly emotional. it’s normal to be excited to be having a baby and want the rest of the family to share that enjoyment. I’m sorry that your family has not been calling you about how the pregnancy is going. However, there might be other reasons why they aren’t calling, etc…maybe they want to give you and your husband a time alone to get everything ready for the new coming baby?
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April 15th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
Traditionally if I understand correctly, typically you get a shower for the first baby and that is it.
Traditionally speaking that is. Now some people do get a shower for each baby. And some get one for the first baby, and second if the second is a different gender
A baby shower isn’t an obligation, they don’t have to throw you one. Its nice to get one though.
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April 15th, 2010 at 1:15 pm
people usually don;t have mor ethen one baby shower. They give you the first one so you can get the crib and all the supplies that you need to start out as parents. As this is your second child you should already have all those things and shouldn’t expect a second one. The only showers i’ve ever seen for a second baby were thrown for co workers at work, definately not a big one with family and friends, they already gave you your baby supplies
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